An accompanying or trailing partner follows a lead partner’s career abroad. Two primary features of trailing are the unavoidable periods of isolation and a parallel sense of aloneness.
As we close out the year, we are asked, if not expected, to keep looking forward. We might be asked (perhaps virtually) what our New Year’s resolutions will be? What our goals are for after the clock strikes midnight? But today, I ask you to pause. Resolutions and goals are important. AND so is acceptance of just being wherever you are. I want to ask you to consider a new, perhaps different skill to bring with you into 2021: Turning the mind towards accceptance.
I find myself reflecting upon how different this year has been for me and for many that I know. The changes, the uncertainty, the losses experienced during the pandemic weight heavily in a way that complicates how I approach my normal year-end reflection. Understanding how difficult this year has been for so many of my loved ones and clients is part of the reason I decided to write about my own journey to acceptance through the pandemic.
Today, I want to highlight a different way we can help our psyche: PLAY! Play time helps us Reduce our emotional vulnerability, Increase engagement with others, Exercise learning in a different (and pleasant) way, And Laugh!
More than any other time of year, the month of December is filled with holiday traditions. Lighting the menorah, pouring libations, decorating a tree, and giving gifts are all part of traditions we see this month. But when is the last time you intentionally looked at your traditions? Do you mindlessly engage year after year in traditions that hold no meaning to you? What better time than now to take a look at which traditions you celebrate and why.
You might be relieved to know that more than any other factor, the quality of the relationship has the most significant impact on positive therapeutic outcomes. In other words, your alliance and the agreement on goals is the most important factor. This leads me to 4 qualities to be on the look-out for when finding a therapist.
So you have decided that you want to talk to someone. Congratulations! That’s the hardest part! Yet choosing a therapist can still feel like a daunting task. There are all sorts of questions about how to find the right therapist.
It is not uncommon for emotions to be seen as weakness. And we see the need to express emotions as somehow being soft. Emotions themselves are incredibly powerful and can be very painful. But, we are wired to pay attention to the things that cause us pain. This is because emotions are a part of a system designed to keep us safe. SO what is the case for starting with emotion? And why are emotions essential to your health and wellbeing?