From a young age, we learn the importance of self-control. As we get older, people communicate that message less directly but often reinforce it in stronger ways. Others praise us for getting things done, keeping it together, planning ahead, avoiding mistakes, and handling challenges independently. Behind the scenes, maintaining that image may require constant effort.… Continue reading When Does Self-Control Become Overcontrol?
I like to call our thoughts, feelings, and actions that scream, "no more!" our make it stop reactions. Recognizing those reactions, assessing them, (making sense of them), and then deciding to do things differently can create less pain and suffering in our family system. When we are willing and make changes in ourselves, it invites… Continue reading How Do I Make It Stop? Dealing With Addiction and Upsetting Behaviors in Your Family
Here we are again experiencing another government shutdown. Shutdowns affect the entire country, but disproportionately impact us here in the DMV, including in Montgomery County, due to the high volume of government employees who live in this area. Before becoming a therapist, I used to be one of them, and I have felt firsthand the… Continue reading Coping with the Stress of a Government Shutdown
Most adults don’t love change . . . and that’s totally normal. We tend to find comfort in routines, structure, and predictability because they help us feel safe and grounded. So when change comes, even if it’s something we chose, a new job, a new baby, or even a divorce, it can still feel disruptive.… Continue reading When Life Shifts: Coping with Change and Uncertainty
