An evidence-based approach for kids and teens who feel stuck in perfectionism and emotional overcontrol.
“The Pressure Cooker Kid”
Saved by the Bell: Jessi Spano
Overwhelmed, high-achieving, and puts a lot of pressure on themselves.
KPop Demon Hunters: Mira
Controlled, perfectionist, keeps emotions tightly contained
Sesame Street: Bert
Prefers order, structure, and predictability
What This Might Look Like
Your child or teen may appear very controlled, responsible, and high-achieving. But underneath, they’re often carrying a lot of internal pressure. They might:
- Hold themselves to extremely high standards
- Avoid making mistakes or trying new things
- Struggle to show vulnerability
- Seem distant or withdrawn socially
At times, all that pressure can build up and come out in intense, unexpected ways.
How Therapy Can Help
Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT) is evidence-based therapy for kids and teens stuck in perfectionism and emotional over-control. It helps kids and teens become more flexible, open, and connected by focusing on:
- Easing perfectionism and rigidity
- Building emotional openness
- Strengthening social connection
- Learning to take healthy risks and try new experiences
These are the teens who say “I’m fine”, even when they’re not. Support often begins when a caring adult takes the first step.
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